Written by Dr. Eric Perry
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“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
I have been told by more than one client that the word “gratitude” has become very cliche. They are constantly being told to be grateful as if it is a fix all to their problems. While it may not magically do away with our problems, gratitude has been shown to have a beneficial effect on anyone’s life.
So what is gratitude and is it really such a great thing to have?
One of the best definitions I have found is as follows, gratitude is “the quality of being thankful and a readiness to show appreciation for and to return the kindness.” This is a powerful definition which contains both a thankful state as well as giving back. It is a full circle of thankfulness for what is received and the giving back of this positive emotion to others.
As a society, we must resist living with a sense of entitlement and focus on being present and truly thankful for our lives. In turn, this feeling of gratitude can then spill over into other parts of our lives and have a positive ripple effect on the lives of those around us.
Being told to feel or express gratitude is great advice and definitely is not an overrated virtue. It is a practice that should be practiced daily. Research has shown that the following benefits are associated with feelings of gratitude.
1. Promotes better sleep
Studies have shown that individuals who are grateful have better sleep. By focusing on pleasant thoughts before you go to sleep you will have an easier time falling and staying asleep. I often suggest keeping a bedside gratitude journal to write in or going through a mental checklist of the day before bed. If you take the time to focus on the goodness of the day and express your gratitude you can begin to ignore and eventually not focus on anything negative that might have occurred during the day.
2. Promotes an overall sense of well-being and optimism
Individuals who are more grateful are more agreeable, open-minded and more satisfied with life. One study showed that after 10 weeks, people who focused on gratitude in their lives were significantly more optimistic in other areas of their lives. It appears that focusing on being grateful has a positive ripple effect in other areas of a person’s life including reduced levels of depression, anxiety and stress.
3. Strengthens interpersonal relationships
Gratitude allows a person to be more willing to forgive others as well as to be less selfish and egocentric. Being thankful for others helps strengthen interpersonal bonds and helps maintain healthier relationships. Gratitude helps a person build more positive social connections and helps to create a social circle of positivity. By helping someone else you might begin a chain reaction of gratitude towards you or another person. Be the catalyst that motivates others to spread kindness.
I have immense gratitude for my life and every day I make it a point to reflect on both the positives and negatives that may be occurring. Remember, it is not enough just to feel thankful. By definition, gratitude means to feel thankful and reciprocate through positive action. Life is a balance of these two forces and both are equally important in shaping us. Set the intention to express your gratitude daily and begin creating a social circle based on thankfulness. Begin with your loved one. Take a moment to write down all of the things you are thankful for in your partner. Find some time where you will not be interrupted and read your gratitude letter and really express how grateful you are to have them in your life. This is a great bonding exercise that will reinforce your bond and remind you how much you truly have for which to be grateful.
Thank you for taking the time to read this post. What are your thoughts on this idea that the term gratitude has become cliche? How did this post resonate with you? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below.
The thoughts expressed in this blog post are my own and are not meant to create a professional relationship with the reader. This blog does not replace or substitute the help of a medical professional. Please note, I am unable to answer your specific questions as I am not fully aware of all of the circumstances.
Kindly,
Dr. Perry
“I help ambitious and high achieving individuals manifest a life of success and fulfillment in order to achieve the life they truly desire.”
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I don’t think gratitude has become a cliche, in fact I think expressing gratitude honestly even to our self is so embarrassing for some people that they choose not to do so and hence define it as a cliche.
Today we think what we have or what we earned is ours, we own it because we deserve it. Being grateful for that is not necessary, but I think only when we value what we have and be grateful for all that we are blessed with till now, helps us to understand our purpose, makes us realize what is important and helps is to focus on worthy stuff.
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I am in complete agreement. Cultivating an attitude of gratitude is the best way to overcome the despair and grief of isolationism.
Being isolated doesn’t mean being alone, it’s the demand for exclusivity in the realm of self, and this exclusion and need to protect and serve the self does not increase self esteem or well being. This is testified to by increasing reports of loneliness, despair and a lack of personal community.
Being grateful frees me from self obsession and its accompanying victim mentality, and creates an internal space in which I become responsible for my well being. When I’m responsible for my life I’m free to connect with others, truly connect with others as equals.
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“…internal space in which I become responsible for my well being” – well said, that’s exactly what needs to happen to stay well.
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Thankyou Sobhanajm.
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I also really like “creates an internal space in which I become responsible for my well being”. I do think that gratitude has become, not a cliche necessarily, but seems to be the “it” thing right now. I like Dr Perry’s article and then the replies that gratitude’s intent is internal, it isn’t just words we say but part of gratitude is taking the time to feel gratitude. When I find myself feeling like it is cliche, I stop and remind myself to feel the gratitude not just mindlessly recite the words. When I do this, I feel an inner joy for all that life has given and has to offer.
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Yeah, that’s what it’s about, feeling grateful changes our relationship with our self first and others after.
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Indeed. Being grateful frees you from clutches of over expectations, finding faults as well as disappointments too. When you are grateful you can see all positivity around you. Be grateful to every one. It’s soul soothing.
Regards
Bhavna.
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Thank you for this excellent post!
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Always a pleasure. Thank you for commenting✨
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Through life’s ups and downs, gratitude keeps me alive. I wish the first thing we teach our kids is to write gratitude journals. Loved your post.
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Oh…I never know these facts…but I’m grateful…and I found this true
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I am so grateful for everything I have. I believe that if you only focus on wanting more, it means you lack gratitude for what you already have achieved and got and this blocks you from attaining greater things. If you stop to appreciate how far you’ve come and give thanks for what you have, not only do you get that lovely sense of happiness, but it says to the world “I am ready for MORE of this”. Thank you.
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…and even for every bad thing…
Thanks for sharing, dear friend 🙂
All good wishes
Didi
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It is good to be grateful. It keeps me from feeling sorry for myself. Every night B4 I go to sleep I think of 3 things I’m grateful for that happened that day. But it’s not good to be a Pollyanna either. Sometimes I have to be angry about bad things before I can be grateful for the good ones. All about balance.
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Dr. Perry asks: Is Gratitude Overrated?
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I can understand the feeling that gratitude is becoming cliche. You read about it everywhere and, like most popular things, the entire story [as you have laid it out here] is not told.
Saying a reflexive, ‘I am grateful for my life,’ isn’t going to give you the benefits listed above. It takes meaningful thought and reflection, and a true feeling of gratitude to receive the benefits, and if you have that, you will want to give back to your fellow beings in order to complete the circle.
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I recently heard a statement from Oprah in an interview it went something like this ” Ego is an imposter, making us believe that we are something that we are not” true self esteem is realizing that the stillness and presence in me is the same as the stillness and presence in all people”
I truly believe that the “entitlement” chapter in our lives is a lot like “ye of little faith” moment possibly causing the Ego to be in “survival mode” wanting to do things on our own and making us selfish and blind to others. Once we find Faith and change the focus on something bigger than ourselves we begin to have compassion for others and our own “selfishness syndrome” is then recognizable to us.
Kind of like the “man who complained of having no shoes until he met the man with no feet”.
I believe the secret is simply finding the right moment where the ego path in our life crosses the path of spiritual enlightenment and a deeper level of spiritual maturity is then sought, Wisdom can present itself earlier however if the longing for a deeper level of understanding is not there it will not be understood.
I always enjoy your posts and find them so helpful. Thank you for sharing them. I find in my care-giving there are many people who would never seek counseling or any type of mental health support however they truly long for help out of frustrating unhappiness. The posts you share provide help for so many, thank you for that.
With Respect, Hope, Joy and Love, Carmela
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I talked about the ego in my reply as well! 😂 being able to give brings us fulfillment and a sense of purpose. Even Erikson mentions this in his psychosocial theory of development.
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Gratitude is NOT overrated…not if it is genuine and truly felt in one’s heart. Where gratitude becomes “cliché” is when it is fake, as in the whole “law of attraction” concept…forcing oneself to be grateful in order to get something in return. That’s not genuine, and it most definitely is not true gratitude.
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Gratitude becomes overrated when society conceptualizes it or uses it for profit. Usually these things are fads and being able to see past it will help us see the light and think for ourselves. This is why I don’t follow what the general public sees as cool or important. The law of attraction may not necessarily be a fad but the way it’s being displayed is. One who wants to learn self-actualization will realize that true gratitude comes from within, when it is not being forced. I agree with you!
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It’s awesome to have a mind out there who thinks like me 🙂 I go over my gratitude lists EVERY SINGLE MORNING, remembering that no one and nothing can bring gratitude to me, and no one and nothing can take it away. That it’s up to me, and that true gratitude can only be found within my heart. 🙂
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Well said my friend, well said 🙂
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I agree that it’s becoming a little cliché because lots of people jump on the band wagon and start flooding social media with “five quick steps to gratitude” posts. But I fully agree that it can do utterly tremendous thing for you – if you fully embrace it.
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The mindless use of the term, yes. That could very well be a cliche. But honest to goodness gratitude like you described, that needs to stay in our lives. Where I am right now (Hungary), people have a tendency to see everything through several layers of negativity. I think blowing off some steam is ok, once in a while, venting. As long as you remember what you’re grateful for. And I’m guilty of forgetting myself, so thank you for the reminder.
Something I forgot to add though. I firmly believe that if you say please and thank you in an honest way you’re employing gratitude without being (fully) aware of it. But it has to be honest, otherwise yes, it’s a cliche.
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I can totally relate to this idea that gratitude is a bit cliche these days. It’s like we are told to be grateful but after hearing it so much I think we might lose sight of what that really means. I love how you pointed out that gratitude is also about giving back. This was a meaningful post for me. Thank you Doc!!
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Great post Dr. Perry! I always appreciate reading your articles!
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Another helpful read. Thank you Sir!
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Definitely not overrated. Thank you for this eye opener
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I totally agree. How can gratitude be overrated? I always find it a so odd when people ‘look for reasons’ to be grateful. We just need to wake up to the fact that we are. To remember we are beings being. What more could anyone want? Everything that comes and goes in my life is conditioned on the fact that I am. And I am!!!!! and I am always and forever thankful.
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Thanks for this. Interesting and helpful distinction there between thankfulness and gratitude. 👍
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Thanks for this post. It moves beyond the shallow cliché and describes the true meaning. I like the description of needing to give something back. Life should have a natural harmony and the complete gratitude process resonates with that perfectly.
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I find gratitude to be a double edged sword. Certain people in my life are always telling me that I had better be grateful for all they have done for me. I am constantly told that I would have nothing if it wasn’t for them and I should show them proper respect and more gratitude. These people turn gratitude into something warped and use it as a weapon.
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I realize this is an old post, but I agree so much with what you said! Being told to be grateful implies that we’re ungrateful and somehow undeserving of the good things in life. And that we should work harder to try to “earn” those good things, or else expect punishment! Both good and bad things happen to everyone, regardless of whether or not we deserve them! This merit-based mentality is often weaponized in religion, in abusive relationships, and society as a whole. There’s nothing wrong with expressing gratitude when it’s spontaneous and genuinely heartfelt, but “gratitude exercises” I think are more harmful than they are helpful!
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There is no downside to gratitude – especially when we are grateful to a person and take the time to communicate our sentiments to him or her. Additionally, as a practitioner of faith-based gratitude, I believe in giving thanks to the Lord regularly (daily!), even for the seemingly small things. Life may still have its challenges, but gratitude helps us to embrace hope and optimism for a brighter future. 💛
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I think if gratitude has become “cliche” it is the egocentric and selfish culture that thinks so — a looming problem in today’s society for sure. I can easily guess that the persons participating in shout-downs, and group think, are not practicing gratitude. (That includes our stalemate politicians who cannot seem to work together on much of anything.) Gratitude gets one out of the “poor me” syndrome and into more positive action and feelings. I like the concept that if you are feeling down, get out of (thinking about) yourself and help someone. It’s amazing what a lift that provides to the spirit. Considering the hostile state of the world, it appears too many have thought gratitude is cliche when in fact it’s the one thing that will improve their lives and relationships. Thank you for promoting it!
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Society teaches us to make more money, buy more things, have a bunch of friends and a large social circle, be in a relationship, go to university etc. in order to be happy. Society teaches us that if we obtain these things, then life will be good. When we are competing with everyone else and using our monkey brains instead of self-actualizarion, we are not going to be happy. Now society has cultivated the idea of gratitude and are trying to instil these old concepts in us. This is seen through marketing and even social media. I think that us humans need to think for ourselves and realize that we are being toyed with by society. Life is a game, and when people realize that it is a game and decide to live life by their own means, then they will naturally become grateful and it won’t be as forced. Ego prevents us from practicing gratitude and society is largely responsible for priming us to think this way! Once we break free of “the norm,” then we can truly heal and be grateful for the lives we have, whether good or bad.
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I strongly believe in gratitude. I often fail to understand when people around me don’t understand the privilege they have which someone can’t even afford to have. They live in a constant negativity. If we are not able to get into that gratitude mode, the best thing to do is by spending time with the underprivileged..a person with a heart (and I mean it) will definitely be moved and the first thing that will come to our mind is, “Oh God, Thank you for everything you have blessed me with”!
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I practice Gratitude everyday. The ability to be thankful and grateful helps me to stay positive and optimistic. I try to see the “silver lining” in every situation because no matter what it is…something is to be learned, or to be grateful for. Gratitude makes everything Better! 🙂
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When I first began to practice gratitude I did not feel thankful. But I was persistent in finding things to be grateful for and after a few months, the feeling of gratitude emerged and I found myself being thankful for everything in my life. Surprisingly, I discovered that I am thankful for not only the good part of my life, but my gratitude extends to the bad as well. This way I am able to accept all things and live with more happiness regardless of my circumstances. I am thankful I cultivated gratitude in my life……..See? I can’t get away from it! Thank you for your posts!
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When you said “we must resist the temptation to live with a sense of entitlement” it really resonated with me. I grew up with nothing but was very grateful for everything, but the better my life got, the more things I had to be grateful for, the more I slipped into that senseless entitlement, without even realizing it. It takes more effort to be grateful, but it certainly reaps more rewards!
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“the quality of being thankful and a readiness to show appreciation for and to return the kindness.” …having the quality of and being ready to return gratitude is it seems to me the essence of the discussion.
My main relationship is with nature – and no one truly understands nature, well not rationally but maybe instinctively – so my gratitude is instinctive I am grateful to be a microscopic sensate something in this awesome infinity.
Whether I am ready to ameliorate that gratitude with every aspect of quotidian existence is a different issue, perhaps?
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You just reminded me of Dr. Masaru Emoto. You may already know about him, but just in case You haven’t heard of him, You might love this! He researched the crystallization of water molecules in various containers (and bodies of water in the world!) after they were exposed to various types of music, prayer, attitudes and words both spoken to them and just taped to their bottles. Across the board….in EVERY language….the words that created the absolutely most beautiful crystals were “Thank You”. Amazing!!! Even over “Love” and “God”. They do a segment on him in ‘What the Bleep do We Know’ and he has some books out that show his photographs of his experiments. Wonderful. I used to own them. But I find his work fascinating; particularly because we are mostly made of water. Thanks for this reminder and for all You do! Cheers!!! 🙂
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Gratitude is EVERYTHING! Cliche? Simply another reason for people to be resistant to acknowledging they are the star of their story or the detriment.
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Thank you so much for this!
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In 1990 my Gma passed away and I remember as I looked down at her thinking, when was the last time I told her I loved her and did she know. I decided that day to always let everyone in my life know I love them and how I feel about them so that I never have to ask myself that question again. Later when we were cleaning out her house we found a card I had sent her by her bed that said just stopped by to say I love you. So maybe this is a gratitude in knowing that when we show love and gratitude it does come back to us. Plus it makes your heart warm and your face smiles. 😄 I love your posts. 🙏🏼🦋💜
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Not only that…when u r grateful for the good things in ur life, u tend to reduce ur focus on d bad things. Great post
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I am agree with you.to showing gtratitude is become for inspiration for somebody.it is not shamful or not down our proud.
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Gratitude begins with expressing thanks for the material things, experiences, events and people and evolves, I believe, into that deeper understanding the Dalai Lama gave when asked what he was thankful for, “this precious human birth”.
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Really interesting post thank you :O) I think that gratitude has become cliched because people feel that it is something they ‘ought’ to do in order to be viewed as virtuous by others rather than something that they want to do. In recent years materialistic success has been somewhat frowned upon and the people who pursue it viewed as selfish or self-centered. I’m not sure that the promotion of selflessness by some is anything other than self-interest as they strive for acceptance in a World that seems, these days, to be dominated and obsessed by political correctness. I think that real gratitude can only come when you forget about other people completely and think deeply and carefully about your own life and focus on the things in it that enrich your experience. Real gratitude is also being thankful for the negative – as a friend said to me the other day “I am thankful for the people who hate me because I can always learn something from them and that enriches my life”. She is one of the most loving and caring people I’ve ever met and if I end up half as enlightened as she is I’ll be very happy indeed! Thanks again for a truly thought provoking post and have a great day x
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I practice gratitude each day too and believe in its immense powers . Have a happiness jar by my side and write one thing to be grateful for each day or one thing that bought happiness to me each day in it . My gratitude rock sits smartly on my side table reminding me to sleep with gratitude at heart !
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I love this post! A lot of tweetable moments here. haha. A good post I’d read again and again. Thanks for this. I think a lot of people are dismissal when it comes to being grateful. It’s hard for me personally to be grateful for things I take for granted. For example, how can I be grateful all the time that I can use a toothbrush and toothpaste to brush my teeth? But the definition of gratitude that you’ve shared is actually quite new to me. I knew it was about being thankful but I didn’t know it was also about reciprocity. This brings new light to the word!
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A good post on gratitude and one I’d personally read more than twice.
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True, sincere, genuine gratitude has many dimensions. Humility, grace, generosity, kindness. The basis and stability of everything. And look at people who have little, they are generally happier than those who have so much! Thank you for this post!
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Thank you. I try to practice gratitude and I encourage my middle school students to do the same.
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Thanks for sharing, I try to practice gratitude regularly and also try to instil it in my daughter. I find being told to be grateful isn’t meant to solve your problems but make you think and realise to be thankful you have something that you care enough about to have an issue with or that in the big scheme of things, our problems are not as big as we make them to be. It is our thought process which makes the problem seem big. Being grateful for what we have rather than what we don’t shifts the mindset – realising that some people don’t have what you have even if it’s not a lot. Some people have less and are happier! Peace and blessings! 🙂
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Gratitude hasn’t become either clichéd or unnecessary. I think in this age of instant gratification many people take things for granted. The real value of even the smallest aspect of life is missed. Good health, even still breathing and being able to get out of bed are big pluses. Being genuine and showing kindness are to be applauded.
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Great post. A visualization technique I use at the start of every meditation sessions in the mornings is to think of 5 things I’m grateful for. It helps put things into perspective, especially when I’m frustrated or stressed.
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I am grateful for your post on gratitude! Thank you!!
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Hi Dr Parry. I take one day at a time and observe life! Most of my problems created by my own decisions!
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Today’s society cultivates an attitude of entitlement enabling us to neglect the simple things we should be grateful for and not take for granted. Such as running water, a roof, a warm bed, laughing with someone we love, elderly parents, and so on.
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That’s great stuff 🖤
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I like your promotion of gratitude. It is a powerful force to put your perspective in order. There seems a sense of entitlement that is pervading society causing rudeness, poor judgement and unhappiness and not only on the highways. Gratitude is an attitude worth cultivating in ourselves for a peaceful life.
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Find myself grateful for everything. Even the icky stuff. No mud, no lotus.
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No mud, no lotus indeed🙋🏽♂️✨
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Gratitude makes us nicer, more trusting, more social and more appreciative.Expressing gratitude bolsters self-worth and self-esteem.
Being grateful for what you have, being grateful promotes positive thinking.. ✨
Lovely post!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.. 😇
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Very well said. Thank you Sadia✨
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Great post. I don’t think gratitude is cliche. I think it’s something we should all cultivate and practice. Thank you for sharing✨
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This post popped up on my read feed this morning and I am so glad it did! I’m a huge fan of your writing but this post was really succinct and nourishing for my heart. I especially liked ‘Be the catalyst that motivates others to spread kindness.’ Yes! More of this in the world!
I’ve been thinking about keeping a Gratitude Journal for a while now and, after reading this, I think it’s time to begin…
Thank you, again, Dr Perry!
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Hi Laura, thank you so much for the kind words of encouragement. I am delighted to hear this post resonated with you. I hope you do start your gratitude journal as it is a very healthy practice. Wishing you all the best✨
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I enjoyed the article and perspectives on the benefits of gratitude and placed a link to this article on a recent blog entry I wrote on gratitude.
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Thank you✨
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I like this post, and it comes as no surprise that I think gratitude is very important in our day-to-day lives, as I practice a daily gratitude blog!
I think one common misconception is that people often think focusing on gratitude makes you all airy-fairy, unable to focus on real events and to imagine life in an unrealistic wishy-washy way. In some of my hardest days I find something, anything positive to focus on, no matter how simple or small it may be, and knowing that there was something there to keep me going that I am utterly grateful for, is what helps in the bigger picture. I still get as irritable and cranky as the next person, but my belief and practice of gratitude helps me to drag myself out of any hole I find myself in, quicker. XO
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I really appreciate this post. Especially the idea: Gratitude as an action. This post is a good reminder!
I don’t think gratitude is cliché but perhaps some people hesitate to invest because they feel it’s an empty word?
I wonder if critics could be inspired to reflect on gratitude after discussing how we express gratefulness. The is a reasonable difference between being “hashtag blessed” and sharing gratitude through actions and meaningful words.
Maybe some folks want to invest in authenticity and there’s a block between the word of gratitude and the action.
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Is it okay to share this?
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Thank you for asking. Yes, as long as credit is given. Please use the wordpress reblog tool or share the link to the page✨
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part of my daily practice each morning is to write in my gratitude journal. i reflect on the day before and write down each moment that i remember and appreciate, especially interaction with others and with nature. keep up the good work.
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Dr. Perry, thank you for allowing me to reblog this article. I appreciate you.
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Thank you so much✨✨✨
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I would definitely love to share this! I just got an app on my phone to remind me a few times a day to be grateful. Thank you so much for sharing.
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I dont think it’s a cliche. It’s something that keeps us grounded, and you’re right it makes someone optimistic, prevents a sense of entitlement. very nice and timely post. Thank you
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I am happy you liked it✨
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This blog post just popped up in my feed and I love it. Gratitude is an action for me. It is the conversation of my heart and soul that keeps me sober.
When I read how some people feel finding gratitude in life is cliché. I wonder what happened to them to make them question something so healing and life saving. I immediately think, “I know what practicing gratitude has done for me, I hope they can find their way to living a life filled with gratitude.” If we all did this, I am pretty sure our world would be even more beautiful.
For me, gratitude is what keeps me from the negative self talk and self pity. I am a mother with mental illness, chronic physical problems, and a survivor of sexual abuse. I also have 3 sons with clinical anxiety, 2 of whom have Autism. I have been a recovering alcoholic for nearly 7 years. This program, a design for living, helped me to find gratitude on a daily basis. At first, it was simply finding gratitude in getting to bedtime with out a drink. That is how my gratitude practice started- from that tiny seed that spoke volumes to me. I had to work at finding gratitude, but now, it comes naturally. That seed blossomed into a beautiful flower. On most days, I find myself finding gratitude in at least one thing. Sometimes it comes naturally, other times I need to work more deliberately.
It’s only 8am for me and I’ve already started a gratitude list in my head. It’s turned into a knee jerk reaction to when I observe something or have an experience. When I drank, my knee jerk was to grab a drink. I was taught how to turn my thinking around. Now I knee jerk to gratitude and self advocacy. It’s one of the things that has kept me sober. Replacing negative thoughts, with gratitude as the conversation with my heart and soul, has turned my life around in ways I never imagined possible. And for that, I am hugely grateful.
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Thank you for sharing your personal story with us. It’s a powerful example of how gratitude can shift our mindset✨
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You have just reminded me that I used to keep a gratitude journal but haven’t written in it for a number of years. This post has prompted me to find it. I particularly liked the part of your post that talked about writing about being grateful to your partner. Thank you.
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You’re welcome Sandra✨
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I try often to be gratefull because i know how it feels to not have some things in my life. I dont take anything for granted so i really appreciate what i have now and am thankfull 😊.
Thank you for sharing your post and making people think about something so simple and hard to do with true intention..but yet, so important.
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It sounds like you have a great mindset Marlene. Thank you for commenting and adding more positivity to this post✨
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Thank you for such a lovely blog on gratitude. Especially the sleep part where you mention keeping a diary of gratitude at the bed side. love the blog
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I am happy this post resonated with you. Thank you for commenting✨
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I think that without a sense of gratitude, we can never really be satisfied…with our lives, our relationships, our possessions, our spiritual connections, and so on. I had never connected gratitude with giving back, but I understand that is just as important. Lots to think about…thanks!
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It is common to mistake gratitude with simply feeling grateful when by definition – an act of service is necessary. Thank you for sharing your thoughts✨
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Your posts always challenge me to reflect. Thank you for your work Dr.
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You’re welcome Randy. Thank you for taking the time to read my post✨
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I think gratitude is critical to a healthy life emotionally and physically. I would go a step further than well being and say it can be healing for those with serious injury or chronic illness. I have had to rehab some major surgeries. I attribute healing and pain management to meditation, gratitude and self compassion. Jon Kabat Zinn’s book Full Catastrophe Living was life changing in this area for me. Thanks for this post!
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You’re welcome Catherine. That’s a great book. Thank you for your insightful comment✨
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Excellent post— really gave me food for thought. I don’t think gratitude is overrated at all. We could use more of it IMHO. In my experience, having an attitude of gratitude significantly alters how I approach my day and the results I get. Gratitude breeds success, I think. Thanks for sharing. Happy Thanksgiving!
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Thank you! Happy Thanksgiving✨
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Truer Words! Seriously. |In order to appreciate all that you have, I believe it’s essential to show gratitude for what we have. As mentioned, it has dual benefits, for the giver and the receiver. Plus it changes your frame of mind in an instant. Loved this, thank you.
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The only thing that makes me sad about your blog is that it doesn’t have a “love” button – because i do love your blog and this one especially. I don’t think gratitude itself has become cliche, but perhaps our overuse of the word has made some people jaded toward it. But then, people have become more cynical and jaded in general. In a consumer society such as we live in everything has become disposable, which is sad. We have become so brainwashed, in a way, to buy the newest gadget, car, or bigger home that we become like hamsters on a wheel constantly running trying to buy that thing that will fill the holes in our lives; that thing that will make us happy. It doesn’t work, of course.
In a world where simple kindness seems to be under attack and governments are swinging hard to the extreme right it is disheartening to consider all the ramifications. This world needs more kind people – people who recognize and give thanks for their many blessings. I love the idea of keeping a gratitude journal. From a personal experience, I do find I am happier, kinder, and more compassionate when I am grateful; when I do give thanks. conversely when I do not recognize the gifts I am given on a daily basis I can become fearful, negative, judgmental, more controlling, and selfish.
Gratitude costs us nothing but gives us everything worthwhile. It helps us see more clearly and judge ourselves and others much less harshly. It does make us kinder. If there is one thing I would like to have more of it would be the ability to be more thankful and thereby kinder.
“In all things let us give thanks”.
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Thank you so much Carol. You always leave the most beautiful and insightful comments. You have such a wonderful and kind spirit. I am so happy and honored to know you on this blog✨
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This is so kind of you. I am sincerely touched by your generous words. I am so happy to read your posts – they help me remember who I want to be – someone who is kind and compassionate. I don’t always succeed, believe me, but we are all merely human so I forgive myself, dust myself off and try, try again. Your blog truly does help me to do so. This particular post just inspired me anew, so thanks for that. Wishing you many blessings, always.
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Thank you so much. Have a wonderful evening Carol✨
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Gratitude 🙏🏻 should always be of a pure heart and be genuine it should never be a cliche and it is not over rated in my opinion 👍🏼
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I agree✨
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This is a great read! I have really been making gratitude my spiritual practice recently and have seen all of these benefits plus some play out in my life!
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Since I restarted my morning gratitude/prayer/meditation practice, my life has changed for the better in a million ways. Starting the day with gratitude is such a great way to set the tone for the day ahead. I am happier, more confident, and more able to deal with whatever comes my way. Focusing on what is right and working is such a benefit, not only to me, but to everyone I come into contact with. I’m teaching my eight year old about gratitude and meditation as well, and she is so receptive. It’s a wonderful thing to do together. 🙂 Gratitude could never be overrated.
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Heard a sermon today based on Philippians. The pastor pointed out that Paul sat in a Roman prison as he wrote an epistle on gratitude and focusing on the good, virtuous and excellent (“Think on these things.”) I was raised in the vale-of-tears tradition. Found the reverend’s message liberating.
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Your articles always add a positive feeling on my mind. Its always pleasant to read your posts
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I am happy to hear this. Thank you for commenting✨
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Newfoundlanders have a love for their homeland, their lifestyles and their cold climate that has fundamentally altered my very negative, ungrateful Nova Scotian self. I grew up with sooo much and yet felt it was NOT enough, my life wasn’t important unless I reached a certain dollar income or did something amazing. Now i look back and wish i had just treasured every moment with my children, pets and grandchildren, my extended family, friends and neighbours. Gratitude means you are present and in the moment, not skipping by the important stuff over illusions of tomorrow’s potential. Thanks for the wonderful article.
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Bravo, you hit the nail on the head, it definitely works to be grateful, I find when I am doing it tough I look at all the things I wrote down previously that I am thankful for and it snaps me out of it, Thanks, definitely a keeper.
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Great post!! Gratitude is underrated and undefeated! I think that in light of all these New Age movements and “spiritual enlightment”, people may abuse the concept and mislead in a way where they overemphasize the effects of gratitude in comparison to also just making healthy day to day choices. But the basis of a happy life and heart position is gratefulness. No matter what school of thought you subscribe to.
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I truly believe in the power of gratitude and I had done one month gratitude journal and everyday I posted as well.
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There should be more gratitude in the world. If people expressed a little gratitude every day, maybe there would be less of “the world owes me” anger in the world. Just my opinion. Thank you for this post, as always.
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