Written by Dr. Eric Perry
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“I am the greatest obstacle to my greatest dreams.” ~Craig D. Lounsbrough
The subconscious mind is like an overgrown hedge maze. We enter it thinking we can quickly get through to the other side only to realize we are lost somewhere in the middle. How often do you set out to accomplish a task only to start ruminating about something that went wrong in your life? Lost in thought we forget that we set a goal to traverse the maze and get through to the other side.
Replaying a past failure is only one of the many ways we can sabotage ourselves from accomplishing our goals and pursuing our dreams. Procrastination perhaps is the number one killer of dreams. We divert the energy we need to accomplish a needed goal towards watching more television or spending more time on social media. Some even go as far as dabbling in mood-altering substances in order to not be present and acknowledge that a change has to be made. We have this one life to live. Choose to stop sabotaging yourself and instead become your best ally. Use your energy to achieve your goals and dreams. It’s never too late to be present in your life.
Here are some ways to stop sabotaging yourself today.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others
How many times have you extinguished a flicker of a dream simply by thinking that you did not measure up? Perhaps the dialogue in your head goes something like this,” I could never do that!” because “I am too old,” “too young,” “not smart enough,” “not thin enough” or simply “not enough.” The list of dream killers is endless and useless. Stop listening to your negative core beliefs. We are all unique and not supposed to be identical molds of one another. Like the numerous different shaped pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, we need human differences to form a beautiful landscape. Embrace what makes you different and use it to contribute to the beauty of the world.
2. Set realistic goals
It is important that when we set goals to not set goals that are so far out of reach. Subconsciously, we may set out to sabotage ourselves by setting goals that are likely to fail. Once we fail we can then embrace our negative core belief and find a sense of comfort in the familiar and harmful beliefs that we have unfortunately learned as our truths. By setting an unrealistic target we undermine ourselves by channeling all of our time and energy into an unreachable dream. It’s important to assess your goals. If they seem extremely out of reach then it is time to set goals that are more realistic. For example, as a child, I wanted to be a fighter pilot. Based on my video game skills I thought I could certainly be the next Top Gun! Unfortunately, I quickly learned that the odds of that happening were about a million to one! I, therefore, switched gears and set a more realistic goal.
3. Reflect on long-term goals
If you are feeling anxious about your to-do list, maybe it is time to take a step back and re-examine your priorities. This isn’t to say that if you are stressed out by your to-do list you are automatically sabotaging yourself. However, it is not uncommon for us to focus our attention intensely on daily/mundane tasks to the point where these tasks become a distraction or diversion from our big-picture goals. Do you really need to run back to the store because you forgot the blueberries for your oatmeal? Ok, maybe. Even still, take a moment and reflect. Have you been going non-stop in such a way that has made you less effective in achieving your long-term goals? Does the thought of these long-term goals make you feel anxious?
4. Accept the past
The past prepares us for the future. Much like the way a person studies for an exam, you learn as much as possible and apply the learned material to the task at hand. Once the exam is over you close the book and mentally file the material for future use. Often we get stuck in the past revisiting a perceived shortcoming that we wish could have had a different outcome. We may spend our time analyzing every detail that went wrong. We become encased in this mental quicksand and forget that there is more life to live and new lessons to be learned. By accepting that we cannot change the past we can release ourselves and fully start living.
5. Stop procrastinating
It’s time to stop playing a waiting game with your life. Life is like a marathon. If you want to run you have to start by moving your feet. If you set a goal, it is important that you take the first step in finishing what you start. Avoid beginning another task before you finish the one you just started. Start by setting small goals and slowly progress to larger ones. By setting and accomplishing smaller goals, you will learn to appreciate the feeling associated with accomplishment and likely want to have more of that feeling.
6. Identify and avoid distractors
We are amazingly fortunate and unfortunate to live in our current technological age. We are blessed to be able to communicate with people all over the world in a matter of seconds. For every possible wish, there is an app. Unfortunately, we are not able to buy more time. Time is a limited commodity and we must use it wisely. We are constantly bombarded with distractions. Our blessings can easily become our downfall. Many of us distract ourselves daily on social media. We might spend countless hours looking at how other people live and what they are accomplishing. It is important that we take an honest look at what our distractions are and how much time we spend avoiding our own lives. It is important to be responsible and set a daily limit for the amount of time we spend on our phone. At the end of our life, we want to be able to reflect back on the life we lived, not someone else’s.
7. Fear of the unknown
The repetitiveness of our daily lives can be quite soothing. Much like the comfort of a well-fitted piece of clothing, we know what to expect. We slip into our daily lives and know exactly what is expected of us. To many, change can be a frightening thing. We leave the comfort of our routine to venture forward into an area that can potentially expose us to uncomfortable feelings. We may fear that if we fail, we prove that our negative core beliefs are true. While failure in a new endeavor is possible we must remember that growth cannot happen in the comfort zone. That uncomfortable feeling in the center of our core is a sign of potential growth. Be proud of yourself for accepting the challenge to be more than you are today.
I hope you enjoyed this post and are inspired to try something new. Try setting a small goal and accomplishing it. By practicing with small goals and learning how to deal with the distractions that come up you can then move on and tackle larger goals. It is time to get out of your own way and stop sabotaging yourself.
Is there an area of your life you feel like you have been sabotaging? Mention it in the comments section and keep yourself accountable. Revisit this post at a later time and update us on your progress!
The thoughts expressed in this blog post are my own and are not meant to create a professional relationship with the reader. This blog does not replace or substitute the help of a medical professional. Please note, I am unable to answer your specific questions as I am not fully aware of all of the circumstances.
Kindly,
Dr. Perry
“I help ambitious and high achieving individuals manifest a life of success and fulfillment in order to achieve the life they truly desire.”
Dr. Eric Perry | drericperry.com
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Beautiful. I love this. Thanks for sharing. I needed this so much. I’m sharing on my blog.
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Wonderful post Eric and extremely timely for me as I embark on my online marketing course. Thank you
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Hello Miriam, thank you for the comment and best of luck to you in your new endeavor!
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Thanks so much!
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This is such a great post. I love it.
I wont lie I’m a victim to the fear of the unknown. I’m consumed with the worst that could happen. Yes, I’m afraid, but I guess we all are.
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I have the same concerns in my own life. Paranoia plays a huge role in my self sabotaging and the fear of the unknown is so hard to get past! We can fight these fears one at a time! Best wishes!
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Very helpful post, Dr. Perry!
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Wonderful post! Thank you so much for sharing! There is one particular paragraph that stands out. “Like the numerous different shaped pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, we need human differences to form a beautiful landscape. Embrace what makes you different and use it to contribute to the beauty of the world.” May I have your permission to share that in my blog? It creates such vivid imagery Blessings, SB
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Yes, but please share it using the reblog button on the post ✨
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Ok will do!
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Very insightful and timely…enjoyed this a great deal! I must share it.
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Beautiful post and loved the thoughts shared !! Indeed inspiring ones
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Early morning must be a reflective time. In my youth (through my twenties) I was “always” getting in my own way”, I thought. Seemed like in everything. I lived all seven of these. Quite a moody, desperate time. And then a complete realignment in thinking, in action, health and spirit. Great insight.
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Moving out and living on my own has created a significant amount of fear, in addition to potentially becoming a professor in the fall: two major things I’ve never done before. Thank you for your article.
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Great post thanks for sharing
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Needed to read this. Literally just posted about the rut I’m in. I love your blog and I love that you share your knowledge with us!
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Thanks! This was just what I needed today.
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This is something we’re all guilty of at some time or another. Time to set self-sabotage aside!
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Love this post Dr. Perry. Thanks a million for sharing 🌹
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Great post – thanks Dr. Perry. The part about identifying and avoiding distractors is where I really need to focus!
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Great points. As for sabotage- I sabatoge my goals by making things more difficult than they need to be- cleaning isn’t just cleaning- it’s full on rearranging, redecorating, pulling everything out of cabinets and drawers- into a pile and reorganizing- even if company is a hour away. Oi. That’s my sabatoge. I’ve earmarked this post and will use your analogies to get away from too big a picture and too small a detail thinking- man. I’m doing it now! Really appreciate the analogies and alternate ways of thinking about a situation. Great framing.
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I keep sabotaging myself like there is this goal in my head about my career but fear, doubts and distractions set in and I just can’t continue with it.
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It’s taken me a good few years but I’m finally managing to avoid ‘comparing myself’… Yes, that’s a lesson I’m thankful to have learned!
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We are our own worst enemies. The ways you listed to stop self-sabotage are relevant and attainable.
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Very helpful! Thank you ☀️
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Great advice from Make it Ultra.
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Very true, I was a procrastinater-in-chief for the most part of my life, then I realized those around me were busy chasing their dreams and coming up with results. I stopped, looked around and knowing I had to do what needed to be done-got down to it. Now it comes easy,I wake up with purpose. There’s a clap somewhere in the dark that nudges me on, then two and I know soon as I continue to go after my craft diligently, I will get the applause!Keep up the good work.
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Bet on yourself all the time and others will eventually.Stop standing in your own way-let your inner you come out and dance!
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Great post thank you ❤
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I am a young man early in his first career and really disliking what I do and how I live, and as a result, I lash out at others in my frustration and angst. I sabotage myself by being the “idea guy” and the “dreamer” but a dream isn’t worth anything unless you pursue it. It might be fear of failure or change or whatever, but it prevents me from taking the first step in achieving some of my dreams, and prevents me from pushing through the obstacles on dreams that I have started to pursue.
Loved this post, thank you.
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Incredible motivation to pursue yourself and your dreams TODAY. Go to Dr. Perry’s site and show him some love for the invaluable advice and encouragement he posts!
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You hit alot of points, Good Job. I’m the procrastinator, 2 books half finished smh you called me bluff today
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Yes to all of the above, in varying degrees! I plan to start a small project today that I have been putting off for months. Thank you!
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Dr. Perry wrote a great article with tips on how to stop sabotaging yourself—I just had to share it! It’s as if he’d been peeking into my novel-writing life for the past year or more, and he was speaking specifically to me, but I’m sure that I’m not the only one who is guilty of all or some of these things😉, so hopefully some of my readers can gain some insight and wisdom from his post, too. Now to put those steps into action and make the next year more productive!
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Amazing post, will be so pleased to share it on my own blog and have already noted it to my Instagram crowd! Thank you again for today’s inspiration Dr. Perry!
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Please take a few minutes to appreciate this entry about self sabotage. This is such an important topic to be discussing on any blog about personal growth and self care and it is important to me to share his words here on Whiskers and Weights. If you have questions for him or want to follow more of his work please take a moment to swing over to his blog, MakeItUltra.
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I haven’t stopped crying this morning. Reading your posts has been so profound. It’s like you are talking to me and only me. It is also saddening too, I am realising what a mess I and my life has become more so than when I started my journey ‘findingtherealjane’. This is a good thing in many ways but boy am I realising just what a number I and others have done on me.
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I find your posts to be very thought provoking and relevant . I am in the process of obtaining my psychology degree and find myself aligned mostly with the Jungian approach and also find the mind mapping theory very interesting. I sincerely hope that our paths cross one day. God Bless you!
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Well said, as usual!
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I’m printing this out to re-read again later… Thank you!
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How many times I have ‘self-sabotage’ a good opportunity, O by mere stupidity. Your words spoke to my misbehavior and I have chosen to apply a few of the principles laid out in your article; quite timely! #bookmark
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Marvelous post! We think alike…
Our minds can be our worst enemies or most powerful allies. We have a choice at hand. Always!
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Thank you, these are good nuggets to carry with me.
My best lesson with letting go of the past was when a therapist looked at me gently and said, “but that’s not the way it happened.” It took a while to really accept, but once it did, I was free of that trapped repetitive thinking that was holding me down.
I need to find a secret phrase for number 1, that’s still a tough one to power through.
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Accepting the past. It’s actually so easy and yet so hard. People think letting go it’s all they need to do, but it’s also growing from the past that matters most.
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I loved this.
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I’m choosing to live authentically from my heart and trusting that my path is always lighted! ❤️
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Thanks Dr. Perry for this sage advice. I saw it on Jordan’s blog. It’s easy to overdo things, including WordPress. I’m unemployed and have time but still get stressed by the pressure to find income, achieve these goals of writing book or blog, walking, yoga and biking every day. So time management, prioritizing and maybe just doing less is what’s required, especially to pay the bills. Sad because I’d love to be a creative person but the starving artist thing is real unless you have a high-demand site or skill like you. Anyway, we do our best and try again tomorrow.
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Great post – thank you for sharing. I just wrote about procrastination and revelations I’ve had recently about how it is tied to my fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of not being perfect, fear of not measuring up, the list goes on and on. I have sabotaged myself for way too long. I will definitely come back to this a a reminder going forward.
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Perversely, or not, what is also helping me is seeing people who are utterly incompetent in leadership positions. Because if they can do it, so can I. Especially if I know I have the skills, the gumption, and just the will to try. Makes me feel less of an imposter (which, admittedly, is a whole other case study). I take my guidance from those I admire, those who are excellent, but while incompetence is annoying, in a weird sort of way it spells comfort as well.
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Thanks for sharing! I can definitely relate to sabotage by comparison unfortunately
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That calls for lot of reflection. Loved this.. 😊
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Beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
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The most important thing that I have discovered about being productive is to do those things you dislike first thing in the morning. Why? The rest of your day will be a dream come true! Love this posting, check it out!
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Great suggestions!
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Awesome post very informative.
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Great advice!
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#3 is a continued struggle for me. It is those things that pop up that demand my time. Unexpected, unwanted life situations that must be dealt with. Taking up extra time and energy. I have such little time to spend on those important goals, to begin with, so when stupid, insignificant things pop up that demand my time, it just drives me mad enough to scream!
I just want to be working on my goals, moving forward. But here comes another delay and another delay. Very frustrating!
I have to remind myself that this too shall pass. It is only temporary. There is nothing else I can do, but face it, get it done, and then return to my goals to-do list again!
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I love this post. It’s so true on so many levels, and I’ve been guilty of self-sabotage in the past too. As a school teacher, it’s something I try and highlight to my students as well – we are so hung up on trying to be perfect that we’re not willing to accept our mistakes as learnings. We need to make mistakes so that we learn. When we self-sabotage, we avoid learning. Thanks for a great post!
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If only I’d stop procrastinating and focused on one thing. at any given time I have like 3 tasks that need completing…. 😦 Plus I gave up on coming up with a schedule because I never stick to it.
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Yes, accept the past!!
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Incredibly well written!
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It’s a lesson we have to keep learning until we have realized it! I “like time out” – that is, step out of/from time, and go into the silence.
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Like this post especially: “Growth cannot happen in the Comfort Zone”. The Comfort Zone is kind of like a cage that you build for yourself. And it’s not even comfortable! There’s a discomfort about it, to be honest. But it’s really hard to get out of it!
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Absolutely amazing post Doc. Just loved it. Keep showering your wisdom in the world with your beautiful thoughts !
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Thank you for this great post!
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Thank you! This is a great reminder. I’m going to set some goals today 😊
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This is most powerful post I have read on this topic. It has certainly moved me to take notes, and want to implement some serious changes. Thank you so much for sharing!
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Love this. It’s very helpful to see it written out so concisely.
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Well said! Love this post!
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Ha, number 3 – distractions. Whenever I get into an argument at home, my go-to routine is to head into the kitchen and start washing some dishes. Not because “they need to be done” (although that’s the excuse I give) but as something to distract me from the issue at hand. That’s something I need to work on.
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I am definitely going to work on this area in my life. Thank you for the great reminder Dr. Perry!
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Greetings Dr. Perry,
I could relate to every point and yes sabotaging myself has always been a problem. One such issue is having low self esteem inspite of knowing that I’m capable of achieving greater things in life. Another issue is losing interest in a goal that I set out earlier. I hope I’ll learn from it.
Thanks for the tips.
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Great Post!
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I can relate to this so much…especially about focusing too much on the past. This post was very insightful and helpful. Thank you
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‘By accepting that we cannot change the past we can…fully start living.’ So incredibly true. A lot of times I find myself so deep in my past, that I prevent myself from enjoying the present. Such an incredible blog you have here, thank you for the post!
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I can definitely relate! (treating myself with kindness with that statement 🙂
So many powerful points jam-packed within this article. Love it. Thank you for sharing
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Another great post!
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Thank you!✨
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Excellent post Dr. Perry. Thank you
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Thank you for reading✨
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Yes, human nature it’s like an imprint your draw to it like a magnet your conscious mind is the positive charge and the subconscious is the negative charge. That ending pulling and pushing from these opposing magnetic charges that is life, Start with knowing thy self then be truthful above all else,
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Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts✨
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Terrific post and on point. I’ve experienced each item mentioned and continue to do some of them. Silly thing is, I know I’m sabotaging myself and the goals I achieve, but I still do them. There are two things I tend to do – procrastinate and then over plan (setting too many “achievable” goals). Mostly this happens with my desire to live a healthier life style, but it ventures into my work environment as well. To try and get beyond the sabotage and to the appreciation. I try to focus on what I have accomplished and let go of the things that didn’t go as I had hoped. Neither thing is easy, but they are steps towards self appreciation and ending the cycle of sabotage. Thank you for sharing your work – enjoy your blogs so much!
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You’re welcome! Thank you for reading and sharing your insight✨
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Needed to read this.. thank you, Dr. Perry.
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You’re welcome. I’m pleased to hear this helped you✨
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Yes.. Thank you🙏🏼
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Have a great weekend✨
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You too,Dr. Perry🌸
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I am stuck in my past. The hurt, and the betrayal of trust is just not letting me come out of this inertia of sadness. I live in a state of complete paralysis in my heart.
After reading your post, I realised that I am sabotaging myself. But, it’s getting impossible to come out and take that first step to look at the life and smile again.
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You are on your way to letting go of the past by realizing that you may be sabatoging yourself✨
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Those words are healing.
With due respect, your today’s post has been an eye opener. I never thought that I could be my own hindrance in moving on.
Thank you again!!
I will read and read this post again.
Thank you for connecting with the broken souls.
Stay Blessed, Dr. Perry.
🙏🏼
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As usual with your posts ❤️ very Inspiring Dr. Thank you 🙂
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Thank you Rani✨
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Excellent and on point 🤗
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I’ve also learned over time not to be afraid to make mistakes or be wrong about something. You probably cover this in 4, 5 & 7 in some respect. Letting go of or accepting the past. Mistakes are okay, even beneficial and necessary if we learn lessons from them. 👍🌟
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#6 is my current struggle, I start the day with goals in mind but rarely accomplish them. It’s too easy to turn to the comfort of coping mechanisms. I’m working on figuring out how to turn this around. A timely post.
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Thank you for reading and sharing✨
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Excellent advice. Thank you for sharing
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I return too often to a past failure. Sometimes it even disturbs my sleep. Thanks for your positive and straightforward advice.
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#5. I’m struggling there. It’s hard for me to put all my energy into one goal. I have this dumb idea that since I’m close to 55, I should work on two or three at time, then I burn out and do nothing for like a month!
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Thank you for this post. I am a procrastinator. I am going to take this advice and finish what I start. I have already started making my lists of small goals and making sure I keep them. I am probably going to come back and re-read this a couple of times.
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You are most welcome and thank you for your comment✨
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Woah! Thank you for this post, this was really needed and you are a blessing! Yes, I won’t lie- I have been in the procrastinating zone!! time to come out of it. Thank you for the Drive that was needed within. Keep writing as you never know, what your writing can mean to someone else.
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Fear holds me back but, I’m workin’ on it!
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Love this! Fear of the unknown is very common. Great content as usual.
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Thank you Dr. Perry! We should see our mistakes as stepping stones to success.
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For me, the fear of success is a block. If I succeed, I will have stress to outdo myself and also face more obligations.
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Not sure if you know, there is a Ted talk about procrastinating and it was pretty good.
I like what you point out.
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Excellent advice! It is very easy in today’s world of social media to become complacent and find yourself living vicariously through others.
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Great post! I think sometimes we are more fearful or our success that our failures. If we succeed then we continually raise the bar we set for ourselves. We are all destined for greatness if we will let ourselves rise.
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I’ve lived most of my life comparing myself to others first it was my physical appearance and abilities then I start comparing myself to intelligence, lifestyle and motherhood. I am constantly working at it. Thank you for this great post!
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Thank you very much for the post. It is tough for me to put something out there with so many other voices. I know that if I just take some time and put something positive out there it would be worth it I just have a hard time doing it.
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I have had goals which I put off earlier because I feared how would the faceless society react to it. Thanks to your post, it has helped me strengthen my resolve to committing towards those goals.
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Very true. So many things are just mental limitations. I found that once when I do break this uncomfortable limitations, actual thing is not so hard as I though at first. Thank you for your post.
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Fear – prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Typically land somewhere in between
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Very nice …i love this … its amazing…
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Really insightful post. Things that are common sense, yet something that we forget to inculcate and need to be reminded to practice via posts such as yours 🙂
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I noticed self sabotage first of all when play sport. I would be winning until the moment when it was time to win and then would always lose at the last moment. On purpose but subconsciously.
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“Embrace what makes you different and use it to contribute to the beauty of the world.” I loved this! Thank you for sharing
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Great post. I have been self-sabotaging myself since forever. And have been trying to change that, sometimes successfully. Still have a long journey ahead. Thanks for contributing and helping not only me to move forward.
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An instructive post. I think one area
I have sabotaged myself significantly is the fear of the unknown. In terms of my career, I have had a nagging reluctance to try a shift from academia to industry. I will be attempting more industry job applications.
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This very useful with my New Year’s “resolutions”, which are small enough to accomplish, but can still be sabotaged by me, if I don’t stay aware of how I do that. You hit the nail on the head! Thanks.
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Wonderful post and a good reminder that we are often our own worst enemy. Love the tips. Thank you.
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I am the biggest culprit of comparing myself to others, a learned behaviour from my mother. I prioritise working on this limitation because I know it only holds me back. Great post!
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Yes, the self-fulfilling prophecy can be our number one enemy, if we allow it! Have a great week!
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Hi..
Very well explained..
Goal selection…selection and maintenance of aim….not living in the past are what takes one forward…not easy to achieve but not impossible too…a bad memory ..a failure keeps knocking …. That’s when a strong mind and will power comes into play..
Regards
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This is SO GREAT! Thanks for posting, there are a few of these I can relate to so I appreciate you offering ways to tackle them, like comparing yourself to others, when most likely they’re just show me there highlight reel and not the bloopers or failures, and No 4. Thanks for reminding me of this so that I can be more aware of how to handle it.
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Thanks for writing this blog out there! I really needed to read this.
I have to admit I do deal with procastination a bit too much especially when I’m very easily distracted in my environment, at home especially. It’s true I need to start setting small goals before I slowly progress to larger ones.
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Sometimes, you feel like you are the only one who goes through these sort of changes…this post is very refreshing!
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Great tips! Regarding number three, I read somewhere yesterday that a task isn’t a project, and that we should make progress instead of checking off tasks. I could relate.:-)
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Thanks for this post. I’m going to use it as a topic for group! 😊
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I stumbled upon this as I thought about writing a book. The task seems so far away from me. However I know a lot of people would benefit from my experience. You always post at the right time. You have made me aware of the damage I do daily with negative thoughts. Keep posting, a breakthrough is coming for some of us.
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Thanks for this, so useful 🙏
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Each little step counts. Thanks for the great advice. It’s a dynamic game we play with the subconscious mind a push here and a pull there. After a while, the more you do the things you want to, the more we become who we are.
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Thank you for this post, Dr. Perry. I am guilty of procrastination, allowing distractions and wasting time. It’s a battle on three fronts. I appreciate your encouragement.
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Very good post, informative with good reminders.
I struggled with procrastination and fear of the unknown for the longest time. Until I made conscious decision to face them and move past their limitations. Also accepting the past and letting it go, but learn from the experiences helped change my present moments and perception of reality. Thanks
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This is a great post
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I have always find it difficult to accept the past and it deals with me a lot. But from now on , due to the help of your article, I will easily let go of the past
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Lovely post. Procrastination is a big dream killer. We should just set out to do what we want to do and shouldn’t have wishful thinking but simply just do without putting up with distractions or wasting our time.
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For me, past is not dead. I take the past experiences (good and bad) as guide in order to tread on the path presently. Present moment is the one which should not be frittered. Staying focused and having belief in our own self; with the thought that what I have learned since yesterday rather than how others have progressed and comparing ourselves with others. Thanks sharing valuable write-up. Regards.
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Wonderful post❤️❤️
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“It’s time to stop playing a waiting game with your life.” Well this rang true for me. I’m not gonna lie, I’m a huge procrastinator. And it’s funny how this article shows up smack dab in front of my face. So thank you for sharing and for the reminders. ☺️
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WoW…….amazing…..I’d like to know how you got inside my head!!! LoL. Thank you for this post…….extremely helpful.
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6. Identify and avoid distractors comes at a good time, as I’m trying to limit screen usage again. I’ve never thought of it as self-sabotage…more unhealthy coping. Like a way to soothe doubt, fear, chaos, etc. But I suppose it is self-sabotage because it’s getting in the way of fully committing to my goals. When I’m low on distraction, my goals stay so present in my mind, but like you said, self-sabotage makes you forget them. Great post 🙂
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Another obstacle that I constantly put in front of myself is comparing myself to where I’d like to be in the future. I’ll often start on a journey to achieve a new goal, only to get discouraged when I’m not where I’d like to be. I’ve found that it’s best to compare yourself to your past self – let yourself know that you have improved from your past self.
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Extremely meaningful post. Love it.
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This is so helpful
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Thank you for writing this post! Really, I feel like the posts comes into my life at the right time LOL when I read the post, I feel like “oh, that’s exactly what is happening to me now” I feel much better to move on and move forward after reading it. Thanks again Dr!
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Very useful. I self sabotage in so many ways. Cleaning has always been a sneaky one, I can’t possibly do anything if my place isn’t clean, but I never get to the end of cleaning because then I’d have to do the things I’ve been avoiding.
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Such a great article, def going to come back and ready it again! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
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Wise and kind words, Doc. It served as a “booster shot” to my current plans.
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I’ve been writing a novel for a decade or more. I revisit it from time-to-time and continue to tweak it. The fear that I won’t be able to secure the services of a literary agent and the fear that this agent won’t be able to find a publisher willing to take a chance on my book continue to hold me back. I’m equally as fearful of success. I don’t like the spotlight. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, so I lack the energy to promote my book in a way that is demanded today. These fears and self-doubt have paralyzed me. The result is that I sometimes go months without looking at my manuscript. I need to print this blog post of yours and tape it to my computer screen. Intellectually, I know all your points to be true. Overcoming my lack of confidence and my unfounded fears is a daily battle.
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Thanks for sharing such valuable information. This is something we all need to know. This could be happening and we not even realize it. Thank you for pointing these things out. You never know how this just may help a lot of people including myself. Thank you so much for this article. Stay safe.
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