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Is There Such a Thing as Being Too Positive?

Written by Dr. Eric Perry
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 “Do what you feel in your heart to be right — for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

I am not a thin-skinned individual who cannot accept criticism, but I do make a conscious effort to block all negativity from my blog. I want my blog to be a place where I can share educational, motivational, inspirational and uplifting posts. I was surprised when a recent quote about positivity, that I posted, generated many disagreeable comments. This made me ponder the question, is there such a thing as too much positivity?

I get my fair share of contrarians on the blog, but the response to this specific tag I made was different. Sadly, one person lashed out and accused me of trying to take credit for the quote. I can only guess what feelings they were displacing or projecting. I did not dignify their accusation with an answer as I was taught if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all.

It is important that I point out again that my posts are meant to educate and are not a replacement for therapy. Therapy is not a one size fits all approach. A big part of therapy is the therapeutic alliance that is formed between you and your therapist. I receive a lot of questions from individuals about issues they are experiencing in their lives. Please note, for ethical reasons I am not able to answer your questions. I do not know the specifics or circumstances relating to the challenges you are facing and it would be unethical and unprofessional of me to try and answer in a paragraph. Therapy takes time and commitment and should only be engaged with a qualified mental health professional that you have selected.

There is one thing you should know about me. I am motivated by adversity and negativity. I get this from having a black belt in Taekwondo and training for the Olympics. It was grueling and in the end, I did not make the Olympic team as I had dreamed. This taught me that anything worth having takes hard work, a relentlessly positive attitude and the realization that the journey matters more than the result. I refuse to allow negativity to damper my spirit. This blog will continue to be my personal space where I share my passion for psychology and positivity.

Even though my blog is open to the public, it is not a public forum for you to air your negativity. My blog is not monetized and I receive no financial compensation for the time I spend writing and creating. I blog because I enjoy it and I respect the blogging community. Having said this, in every relationship, there must be healthy boundaries in order to maintain the connection. Therefore, I have a comments policy on my blog. I will continue to only let in positive comments that inspire others. I am not allowing the following comments or any others that I choose to be posted on my blog.

1. Comments by contrarians who are trying to “stir the pot” just to get a reaction.

2. Solicitous comments where it is apparent you did not read the post.

3. Comments asking me to follow back. This is not Instagram. Feel free to follow the blog, but because of my busy work schedule, I am not able to follow more than a few blogs. I try to read as much as I can on the blogosphere and will always “like” what I read.

4. Political and religious comments are not allowed. I respect all points of view equally, but this is not the platform to express these opinions.

5. I do not allow comments from individuals looking to solicit business from the readers of this blog. I believe if someone is interested in your product or services they will reach out to you.

The thoughts expressed in this blog post are my own and are not meant to create a professional relationship with the reader. This blog does not replace or substitute the help of a medical professional. Please note, I am unable to answer your specific questions as I am not fully aware of all of the circumstances.

Kindly,
Dr. Perry

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317 responses to Is There Such a Thing as Being Too Positive?

  2. Caroline says:

    I agree! Your blog your rules! It is important to set healthy boundaries in all relationships. I get a lot of negative comments on my blog so I changed it to private.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you for your comment Caroline. There is an option on WordPress where you can approve comments before they go on your blog✨

      Liked by 4 people

  3. Somewhere in CA says:

    Wonderful post! I agree with every thing you say. I can’t believe someone would accuse you of plagiarizing a quote? I love the quotes you share and you always give credit where due. I think you are right that they were displacing onto you. I am an email subscriber and I always look forward to your post. Your blog is great.

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  4. OneOfYourPatients says:

    I never understand people who go out of their way to say something negative to someone else. People need to watch Bambi – if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Good job setting the standard Dr. Perry. We don’t need to put up with people’s negativity. That’s for sure.

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  5. Claudia says:

    This is upsetting to me that someone would lash out at you Dr. Perry. I rely on you not as my therapist but for my daily dose of positivity. You have helped me so much and to hear that someone out there is trying to discourage what you are doing makes me feel sad. I hope you don’t ever stop writing and sharing your viewpoints. Don’t be discouraged please!! I love your blog.

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  10. All About Life says:

    It’s sad to hear the faint note of discouragement in this post that’s resulted from somebody’s nit picking. Intelligent discussion is fine, we can’t agree with each other all the time, but negativity for the sake of it is just wearing and the reason why I can very rarely be found on Twitter or Facebook. It seems as though social media really brings out the worst in some people. I think your rules are absolutely spot on and good on you for laying them down – your blog, your rules :O) x

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      I agree! There is currently too much negativity and we need to stay optimistic and positive✨

      Liked by 7 people

  13. enitsirk24 says:

    Excellent post! Haters try to muscle in and you blocked their attempts with ground rules and boundaries. Way to go!

    Receiving negative feedback means you are writing the right stuff. You stirred something in them that they are struggling with, yet haven’t realized.

    Keep up the positive blogs; I love them.

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  14. Walter says:

    Dr. Perry I wish you a positive day and I’m fully aligned with your post. We share from our hearts with the hope that it will impact at least one reader! You are doing great work. W

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  15. The Lions Crest Farm says:

    I enjoy all the quotes and the positivity you do you and let no one bring you down I separate myself as often as possible from negative things I.e. people mostly life is too precious to have all the negative drama and hatred. I myself look forward to as much motivational input as possible and rather enjoy reading your blog on a regular basis the rules and boundaries you set are to the point and seem to be needed. Keep the positive mind and have a great day

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  16. Emile Therese says:

    Indeed, being too positive is a badge one (we) should be proud of! I was surprised to know there were such comments on your other post (I do leave comments but rarely check on other’s comments). They were undeserved to say the least.

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  18. Cindy says:

    “Virtue” and “justice” have been wrapped in anger it seems.. if you’re not angry about SOMETHING today, you are clearly not a good person..(so we’re told.) I appreciate all who create sanctuaries of positivity and light …especially now when so many seem to thrive on (and profit from) tension and division. Thank-you! 💜

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  19. stacyaldermanwriter says:

    The Eleanor Roosevelt quote says it all — some people are never happy. While I do deal with anxiety and depression and sometimes get annoyed with people who are so deliriously happy ALL THE TIME, I don’t lash out at them.
    Your post reminds me of something I experienced at work a few weeks ago — one woman was raking me over the coals because I was having a tough time with something going on in my life and was very down. A week or so later, once I was feeling better, I was laughing and joking, and she mocked me again! Eye roll. Some people are simply ridiculous.

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  20. earthskyair says:

    Great, practical reminder and demonstration of setting boundaries. Thank you for that! I appreciated your Olympic training story, too – yes, the journey matters! 🙂 And, of course, love that photo of you at the bottom. Makes me smile.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      You’re welcome! Boundaries are very important to have in any type of relationship. Have a great day✨

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  22. Jemagold says:

    Wow, I missed the “drama” on your site; sorry you had to “define rules and boundaries” bc really, common courtesy should prevail, sigh! I, for one, am very grateful for your writing. You came into my life when I most needed to hear your words; your blog has helped me through an incredibly difficult time in my life! I will be forever grateful I found your blog! ❤

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  23. queentracey1 says:

    Way to be assertive! I am not sure if I would have been able to just ignore such a comment, I may not have commented but I would have let it torment me inside. Feel confident you do inspire, I take your words in the same respect I do of my teachers. Love the air you got in your picture!

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  24. jim- says:

    Boundaries are good. Realistic Positivity.. Is there room for being pessimistically optimistic? Leaving a little room to be pleasantly surprised but planning for “what if I fail”, curious. I’m usually all-in on things but there may be times a little trepidation is healthy. I don’t suppose training for the Olympics allows for much of that, but maybe in business it’s a healthy approach. I tend to expect setbacks but have a personal motto, anything worth doing is worth doing the hard way. I’ve seem to realize that a lot lately.

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  26. Lee Cleaver says:

    Absolutely…Love this right here brother.

    Got me fired up and I felt your passion.

    Eloquently put and spoken from a true understanding of the game.

    You are a pioneer…a revolutionary…and know yourself people will try to test that.

    You are changing lives and it is a pleasure to interact with such a talented individual on here.

    We have different but similar roles in many ways and one thing I try to make clear on the blog…is that I can’t treat…assist…guide…advise…or help any individual specifically…without individual analysis and relationship building personally…in the flesh.

    I love how you too stay true to the essence of your craft.

    Love reading your posts…because I know you speak from the heart…and from the stance of wanting to truly help.

    Your chosen topics and messages are ones of true mental and physical prosperity….topics that apply to the whole world…every single sex colour and creed.

    The fact you clearly…heavily…know what you are talking about…and are highly regarded in your field…is a lot for some people to have to swallow on their current journey.

    Truth telling is always going to provoke negativity I guess.

    From reading your posts I would say rather than too positive…I’d label you a clinical realist and a real human being.

    I just want to say…because sometimes I need to hear it myself…forget what the critics say.

    You are leaving a legacy…and somebody who can truly say they stood for something…a person who took the opportunity to be crazy enough to believe they could make a difference in the world.

    Living not waiting for it to pass by!

    Keep doing you my friend.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate that you took your time to leave your beautiful comment. Have a great day✨

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  28. dorothychiotti says:

    I appreciate your example of good boundary setting. It’s taken me a lifetime to understand that I don’t need to allow people to rain on my parade. Lots of unhappy people seeking (negative) attention and destroying others in the process. The insight you share in your blog is something I look forward to reading. It supports my own therapeutic journey and helps to solidify knowledge gained over years of healing work. It’s also an excellent resource for when I work with my own equine experiential learning clients. … Keep up the good work. The world needs more of your positivity. 🙂

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  29. Xena and Lucy says:

    I thought it was a great post, and the world needs more like it. And this post is a well thought out response to the poor people who always have to be “haters.”
    About that last picture…wow! I applaud you for being able to do that, as well as the photographer for being able to capture it on film (OK, maybe digitally :).

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  30. Rita Sommers-Flanagan says:

    Nice! My 84 year old mom just passed away. Her two favorite sayings were “Life’s too short to feel sorry for yourself” and “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” She was an abused child, faced poverty and unplanned pregnancies, lost my father when she was 39. But nothing got her down. She would have liked your blog.

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  31. Terri, Reclaiming Hope says:

    Dr. Perry, with so much negativity all around us, I for one appreciate that your blog is a place I can come to learn about my fellow humans and the things they deal with on a daily basis. Brilliant move to set a comments policy – that way, everyone knows up front what they can expect. Thanks for giving people a safe, positive place to visit!

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Well said! I enjoy your blog very much and look forward to the day when your balance is zero✨

      Liked by 1 person

      • dbl04b says:

        Thank you! This really means a lot. I enjoyed your recollection of training for the Olympic Taekwondo team, it’s inspiring.

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  33. arsenedk says:

    I couldn’t agree more, I’ve been “accused” of being too positive or too optimistic but I think being an optimist is hard because it means you have to deal with a lot of disappointment , and sometimes even anger. But at the end of the day as you said we have to stay that way and resist the temptation of joining the “negative” side.

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  34. autismduniya says:

    Ugh, this is the downside of putting ourselves out there. But when we are certain of our messaging, and honest about the issues we are grappling with, we have to power forward with some sense of what we will tolerate, as you have done. Your blog is beautiful. Everything we read cannot resonate with us, that would be ludicrous, but we can respond with civility, and take time to reflect on what is making us have a strong reaction. Take care.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you very much. It’s true if you do not agree with what you read simply stop reading the post. Have a wonderful day✨

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  35. insanitybytes22 says:

    I enjoyed reading this!

    I am actually a gloomy soul, a bit melancholy sometime, so imagine my surprise when the biggest complaint I so often get from people is, “you’re too positive,too optimistic, too perky.” Right. And so if that actually makes YOU “feel bad,” perhaps you should just proceed to feel bad? I mean, what is one supposed to do in that situation, stop being positive so no one else ever has to feel uncomfortable? Sheesh. I think not. 🙂

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  36. mindsoul11 says:

    Excellent post!! Do what you do with pride Dr. Perry. Yes, we can’t please everyone. And its better not to waste our time thinking about their gibberish comments.
    You’re doing right blocking the rotten potato out of your basket(blog).
    Loved the pic at the end. Looking forward to more post of yours.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      I agree! Sometimes it seems like it’s easier to spread negativity! Thank you very much!

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  38. Naman🙏 says:

    Dr. Perry..!!🙃 Such a cool Dude You are…!! 🤓😎 Taekwondo, Olympics training.. and everything else.I mean wow..!! 👏✨✨
    Loved that photo of yours 😉 And off course the message through this post!! #Embrace the positivity!! ✨☺️

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  39. Diana Frajman says:

    How frustrating for you that you felt compelled to have to create a comment conduct guide. Alas, this is the world we currently live in. Having said that, folks like you, and me, are the lantern bearers for those living on the edges of this darkness. Keep your positive attitude and never stop shining your bright, pure light. 🙂

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  40. Anon. says:

    hey Dr. Perry! Just want to say I agree with your post and I love your rules especially the one about being solicitous! There are so many people on the blog trying to sell me something! It’s refreshing to find a blog as popular as yours that is not constantly trying to sell me something! Well except positivity!

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  42. Covert Novelist says:

    My thought on the matter is that you struck a nerve. People who react in such a way are usually as you put it are displacing and projecting. Believe me, I’ve seen it often enough. I’m thrilled you’re here, that you share and how much you care for humanity is pretty obvious to those with open eyes hearts minds and souls. Those closed off individuals simply rant and rave. I shall always come visit because in everything you say, there is a grain I can use in daily life, whether it involves family or friends, and often, you have given me the thought process to pass on to others. Thank you so much 🙂

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  43. Sharon says:

    I may not always have the time to read every post, but it seems that I find the appropriate ones when they are needed most. I praise you for what you do here and hope to continue reading your work! Best of luck in all that you do Dr. Perry!!

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  45. Anubhav Sinha says:

    Well Humans minds are too difficult to understand. All have their own way of thinking. It is hard but they should understand also how others feel.
    And yes, negativity always degrade the human knowledge. Thanks for that!

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  46. Sarah says:

    I appreciate your positive space and posts. Even though I don’t comment often, I want you to know you and your perspective is appreciated.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you Sarah! I appreciate you taking the time to comment. Have a wonderful weekend✨

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  47. LynDurante says:

    Oh, I love reading every word you said here, Dr. Perry. I can relate well and learn from your words because I actually get affected by some level of criticism. However, high-five! — I am with you in wearing the badge of “being too positive” with pride. Thank you. Congratulations on getting your PhD – such a great photo!

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you so much Lynn! I know you have been with me since the start of this blog and I appreciate it very much✨

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  48. MoonChild Nova says:

    People see in the world what they feel in their hearts. You owe no one an explanation or justification for your journey and choices. What others say, how they respond to you, isn’t about you.

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  50. Create Space says:

    It is encouraging to see you reiterate your boundaries and to be assertive about your blog, its contents and how you chose to manage it ..to me this is what it is to be a role model!

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  51. lbalex50 says:

    I totally agree. It takes too much energy to dwell in a negative space. I’d much rather lighten someone’s load with joy, happiness, and peace:)

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      So true! Negativity is like a black hole. It just drains everything. Have a wonderful weekend✨

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  52. zeesviews says:

    Very rightly said that we cannot please everyone so we shouldn’t try🤷‍♀️
    Your blog is amazing and its positivity is so much required for the people like me😊
    Keep going and spread more positive vibes🤗😇

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  53. TERRELYN SMITH says:

    Dr. Perry, I enjoy the posts you write. They are professional and down-to-earth. I love how you express yourself, kindly as though you are speaking to us,one on one. It’s full of relatable material. I have been a fan of your blog since I first started reading it! 💜 it ,Dr. Perry! 💜

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  54. AussieCut says:

    Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t let the haters get to you Doc. They are just jealous that you are doing something positive and people like myself can relate.

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  55. carol hopkins says:

    Too much positivity? Wow – isn’t that like saying too much fresh air is not good for you? I sit here shaking my head after reading this post. First of all, I absolutely love your blog. I think it is extremely generous of you to share your innate wisdom, and the positive and uplifting nature of your writing is what keeps me coming back.

    A person can have a differing viewpoint on a given topic without resorting to vindictive ‘poison pen’ responses, which is what I suspect you have been exposed to and that is really unfortunate, but if it is any comfort at all, any reasonable person understands and appreciates the gifts you offer without price!

    I am so grateful for your blog and it is always one I look for when I log in to WordPress. And so, I thank you for your kindness in writing about topics that impact so many lives. I suspect you are helping literally thousands of people on a daily basis. You truly are a blessing and I hope I continue to have the opportunity to learn from you.

    You know, the world can be a dark and dreary place sometimes, but you shine light on those dark places, and make life a little sweeter, a little better for so many. Keep on trucking Dr. Perry, and please don’t let the naysayers get you down.

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    • carol hopkins says:

      I just realized the comment I wrote about too much positivity may be misunderstood – sorry I am a little distracted with family stuff….it was meant to address any negative reaction to your positive blog, and I whole-heartedly agree, there is no such thing as too much positivity. So, to be clear, that remark is not directed at you Doc, but to the person or persons who criticized it….

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  56. Rebecca Fegan says:

    It is so much easier to be negative than to be positive. Being positive takes more imagination and a genuine belief that better things are coming. Negative thoughts allow a person to just sit on the couch and do nothing because the outcome will never be the sunshine, unicorns and rainbows that “everyone else” gets without effort. Either the negative person has isolated himself from society to spiral into his own negative space, or the person chooses to surround himself with other negative people so they can spiral down together. Sounds like Mel Brooks’ High Anxiety… Keep being positive!

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  57. Ilka says:

    I love exactly this positive space here on your blog.
    I think, commentators are like guests on our blogs, and I want them to behave with respect.
    The world is full with negativity. We shouldn’t add any more. You do it right when you remove negative comments.

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  58. nfocus4you says:

    There are a lot of positively negative people out there.🤩. While disagreements occur my nature is to grasp for the light. Which is why I look forward to your posts. Thank you Obi-Wan Kenobi 🤫

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  59. Sunsets-Sunrise says:

    Such a great post Dr. Perry thank you for sharing. Negativity only fuels me to do better and do more. I’ve always been taught if you can’t say anything nice then just don’t say anything at all. Have a great weekend! 😊

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  61. Sindhuja Manohar says:

    Thank you, Dr. Perry, for continuing to write your inspiring (and informative) posts. You are the first blog I go to read when I click into my WordPress Reader – simply because I know every single post of yours will be written to generously share your wealth of knowledge and experience with others to improve their overall well-being in a positive, constructive, and uplifting manner. 🙂

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  62. JanBeek says:

    I tried when you first posted this to leave a comment and my computer said, “Site not available.” Hmmm… I wondered if you had blocked me. But, why would you do that? Surely not! I am with you – as one who says, ” I will continue to wear my badge of being ‘too positive’ with pride.” So, here I am. It must have just been a glitch with my computer. Almost 250 others found their way in to leave a comment … so you know this post resonated loudly with a whole gob of your readers. I am among those wondering why anyone would find fault with any of Dr. Perry’s posts! With Sindhuja, I agree that yours is a go-to first blog because you always share ways to improve our overall well-being in a positive, constructive, and uplifting manner. I thank you!

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you Jan! I think it must have been a glitch! I would never block you✨

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  65. toniandrukaitis says:

    I agree, there is no such thing as too positive. I always say, “Your perception is your reality.” If you keep positive, the world is a beautiful place. And, thanks for sharing your thoughts, insights, and encouragement,

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  67. Lisa T. says:

    I’d say it’s not helpful to be positive if it’s fake. Being authentic about how you REALLY feel is what has power. But then knowing you can pivot and have a perspective on it will help you get through it.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      I agree we must respect our true feelings but we also have the choice and power to avoid negative individuals in our lives.

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      • Lisa T. says:

        I totally agree. Toxic people-yes-draw those boundaries. I have to do the same thing in my practice and have no problem doing it.

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  68. Journal Girl Jaclyn says:

    There is something funky in the air lately! ❤ I have been bullied and called names for my positive work. In order for us to be happy within our own lives, we must understand that trying to bring others down is not a solution to the challenge at hand. ❤ We all have facets that make up the gem of this earth. ❤ So keep going! OWN your positivity, OWN your SELF, and let the haters hate, hate, hate…themselves. ❤ We can lead a horse to water, but we cannot force it to drink.

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  72. Mike Balof says:

    Wonderful Post. We are here to lift each other up, and your work in that has inspired me for a few years now. I am an Eagle Scout and if there is a badge for being too positive, I will have to go back to my youth and get one.🙃

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  74. Marlene Lima says:

    really nice post 😊. i support you and everyone transforming negativity into positivity 👌✊✌💖

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  75. sreeyal says:

    Quotes have a power to convey short, yet, strong messages. It’s a blessing to know them even through blogs that quote them. Though at times negativity brings us down, in long term it helps us. Sorry you had to face the unwanted challenge, but expecting more powerful blogs from you with ‘quotes’ that make us think.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you very much for your support. I have learned a great deal from negativity and always seem to come out more positive with each encounter. Have a great day✨

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  76. Karen says:

    I am fortunate that I haven’t encountered any negativity on my blog, maybe when I reach nearly 20,000 followers that will change. I believe in being positive. I believe in truth and authenticity. I believe in freedom of speech. But I have no time for argumentative and overly negative opinions. In blogging we express ourselves and if people don’t like that then one has to ask why are they reading our posts?
    Karen xx

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  77. Klea says:

    In today’s society I honestly believe there can never be enough ‘POSITIVE’ … You only have to turn on the tv or radio to hear how negative our world is, and we all know how much the media loves to tell a morbid story over a happy one (Just one of the many reasons we don’t watch or listen to the news) … Or take a chance and ask someone/friend or family member how they are and you will get at first possibly a ‘good reaction’ but give it few moments and you will get the rest which is nearly always negative/bad …

    Little story … When my daughter was in high school she used to always come home in a really bad mood, which is nothing unusual for teenagers … As it was just the 2 of us it her moods used to rub off on me as well and in turn our little home into a negative one … I don’t know what made me think of it, but instead of just asking her the usual ‘How was your day?” which lead to her complaining about everyone and everything in her life, I asked her to tell me ‘3 good things that happened that day’ … It totally stumped her and me … I told her I didn’t want to hear anything from her unless it was something good about that day. It took her about a week but she finally told me something positive about her day and after a month she was telling me lots of positive things every day. She is now 34 with 2 year old twins and like many new mothers she suffered from post natal depression when they were born at 32 weeks … We both still refer to those ‘3 things’ and from experience we know how much they can turn your frown around.

    Having positive happy people in your life can lift you up and when that happens, great things start to happen. Sad negative people will start to disappear from your life and happy go-getters, many who also happen to be successful people will be drawn to you because like minded people are attracted to like minded people …

    Keep the positive coming Dr Perry, your words of wisdom and happiness are always welcome in my inbox xxx

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you so much for your insightful comment. How you handled your teenage daughters negativity was brilliant. It’s so easy to get stuck in thinking negatively. Have a great week Klea✨

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  79. zazaxmilesoff says:

    Hi Dr. Perry, I agree. There’s so much negativity out there: in real life, politics, in the media even in one’s family. This is your space here and you should make your own rules. In real life I had to take the decision more than once to turn away from negative people. I haven’t regretted it. Negativity is draining, and it is so much better to spend one’s energy on something fruitful. Thanks!

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you for your support! You are absolutely right and I also don’t regret setting boundaries on my blog. Life is too short for any negativity. Have a great week✨

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  81. earthwalking13 says:

    Great post ! And I like the boundaries you’ve laid out. And I agree, there is way too much negativity out there so there can be no limit to, or too much, positivity being placed out there. A while back when I was hiking I began noticing wild flowers and taking pictures. I became really fascinated with the detail and diversity of the plants and began posting pictures of the flowers on my Facebook page. Sometimes I would identify the flower, other times not. So one day someone asked, “What’s with all the flowers?” Sort of implying there was something wrong with it. And I did receive a couple of comments from friends about it being weird for a man to like flowers. I thought they were weird for thinking that way, and to the question I replied “Neuroplasticity.” Of course, they said, “What?” And I said that I figured that if I put positive, beautiful images out there repetitively that it might help some to rewire their brains to seeing the beauty in the world. No more weird comments followed, and I still get likes when I post the pics 🙂

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  82. tigre23 says:

    Thanks for sharing! Great post and boundaries seem to be a point of discussion for me lately also. Peace and blessings! 🙂

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  85. forresting365 says:

    That photo at the end gifted a HUGE smile! You put this all so well. And gotta say, loving that You’re a blackbelt and trained for the Olympics. Wow!!! And Your PhD to boot! You are living Your life in wonderful, bold, shining capital letters!!! Cheers! 🙂

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  86. Ross says:

    Love this post! I’ve actually just come across your blog for the first time and would be really interested to find out more about your Taekwondo and Olympic training journey, the mindset elements and what you learnt from this experience – do you have a post on this? Thank you.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you for your interest. I don’t have a post on this subject. Perhaps in the future I will write on this topic✨

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Delusion is defined as “a mistaken belief that is held with strong conviction even in the presence of superior evidence to the contrary” Having a positive mindset is a choice. This does not mean the denial of seeing the truth of a situation. For example if faced with an illness you accept you have an illness but choose to approach it in a positive frame of mind. You are not going through life in a delusional state ignoring that life does have its negative periods. As I said in a previous post, there is much to be learned from negativity✨

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      • Jaymie Ellen says:

        Very well said, Dr. Perry. I suppose sometimes I find myself in a state of force where I walk around almost hysterical to avoid stress, worry, or sadness. This made me curious about the nature of positivity. You make a valid point about the evidence for truthfulness. Thank you.

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  88. C.C. says:

    Great post Dr. Perry. I think it’s so important to face life with a positive attitude. There is way too much negativity in the world. Just yesterday there was another mass shooting in my area. Thousand Oaks. The world is crazy. Thank you for your positivity❤️

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  90. TheeWriter says:

    I often get the same comments. It is almost like an insult. “You’re so positive.” I fight every day to remain positive and it isn’t always easy. It’s a choice and I think people get thrown off because it’s become so normal to complain. To say “I’m hanging in there” instead of “I’m fantastic!” I don’t want to become comfortable in negative spaces. Great Post!

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  91. A.P. says:

    This is great, the positive guidelines you have established. I also am blessed to know that, if I receive a “like” from Dr. Perry, it means that Dr. Perry has *actually read and appreciated* my post. I don’t think I’ve been to this blog before, but I will follow you now more closely. Thanks so much.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Hi A.P., thank you for your comment. I have enjoyed the positive nature of your blog and am looking forward to reading more from you✨

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  92. agenturherzensfreude says:

    I really appreciate that you set up boundaries, because I assume that people who comment with negativity can not consume positive thoughts because their mindset hinders them from seeing the light and shining you bring into this world with your content! Keep on going! I am sure those who have a positive mindset will enjoy reading your posts and commenting in a proper way. I am always saying this: if you cannot bring some positivity into other peoples world, then better go for a run or try to hit the back (boxing) in order to get your negative impressions out without hurting other people’s hearts

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  94. mdobrogov says:

    Too much positivity is never enough! Great job. I see there are more people dressed with a smile and with positive energy. I always say “i don’t have time and energy for negativity” 👍🏻😀

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  95. Tatjana says:

    Whenever we display our work to public, negativity and unconstructive criticism come along. I don’t think there is such thing as too much positivity. But, I believe the society is setting standards of the imperative of happiness and feeling good, especially through the fake and filtered world of social media. People are lonely and not equipped with tools to emotionally survive. And rare of us are ready to do the hard work in achieving the self awareness either through education and/or therapy. In the meantime, you write because you are contributing in making the world a better place. Those who take time to write something negative are the ones who need you the most. Good luck😃!

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  99. Cristina says:

    Excellent post. Great example of establishing your boundaries. Stay the course Dr. Perry. Don’t let contrarians and negative individuals get you down.

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  100. originaljusticereign says:

    Positivity is refreshing, and so is this post of yours! 😌💛

    Ps. The picture in the end made me smile. 😄

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  101. elizamakaira says:

    Thanks for asserting your purpose and mission and the clear boundaries you outlined. I also appreciate that you take time to read and like posts from other bloggers like myself. I have been on an amazing healing journey for the past year, which was ignited when I started daily post three things I am grateful for in my life. This has become so deeply ingrained I am often surprised by the things I hear myself saying and asserting. I continue to check myself and continue to replace old recordings of negativity with a new more enlightened and hopeful words and statements.
    There is a place for grieving and releasing of the real and raw emotions, but I believe these expressions differ from the declarations we can unconsciously speak over our lives and lead us down paths of lack, self loathing and depression.
    Thanks again Dr. Perry!

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you Eliza for sharing your personal journey. I look forward to reading more of your blog posts. I wish you well✨

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  102. iamlifelonglearner says:

    In a cynical world…nope!
    Positivity is hope for the hopeless, love for the lost & broken souls & most importantly…light for all those dark places in our hearts & minds that cause us to dwell & obsess.
    In my humble experience…There is no such thing as too much Positivity!:)

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  103. Dr. Perry says:
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    Exacty. Having a positive mindset does not mean ignoring that life has ups and downs. It just mean you approach all of life with a positive attitude. Thank you I appreciate it✨

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  107. G. J. Jolly says:

    Although I do think there is way too much negativity in the world and think some people use it to avoid the hard work that may come with being positive, I choose to try to stay neutral, open-minded as it is sometimes called. That way I am better prepared when things turn out badly, being able to handle them more rationally and am pleasantly surprised when things turn out positively, giving me an emotional boost.

    I have had those commenters on my blog who want to get a rise out of me. In some incidences, they succeed but I refuse to let them know it and delete their jibberish. Some negative comments have been well thought out and hit on points I haven’t considered fully. I will respond to those and hope I am learning from them.

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  109. ron877 says:

    I liked your clearly stated rules and boundaries. My blog requires my approval for comments to appear. I don’t have a large following and not looking for one. I set up my blog in an attempt to motivate my students to read so I do a lot of book reviews. To date, 210 comments with 208 approvals. The two I didn’t approve were from authors who disagreed with my reviews but wouldn’t make sense to anyone who hadn’t read the books.

    The point of this comment is that I liked your rules so much I am going to publish similar ones on my blog. Although I will phrase my rules differently to suit my needs, if my rules resemble yours too much, I’ll leave a credit note in the post.

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  110. CraigsSolutions says:

    I, too, have been “accused” of being too positive and “naive.” I appreciate it as a compliment every time, as I believe there is no such thing. I completely agree with you – it is especially important to focus on the positive now, more then ever. And boundaries are always a good thing! 😊

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  112. Sarah Provost says:

    Awesome post. I believe you can never have too much positivity. If more people only knew the peace in your heart that comes with staying positive, the world would be a better place. That was sad to hear that someone lashed out at you. Its so uplifting to know that your dedicated to bringing positive and motivational content to readers. Thank you!

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  113. countryheartspark says:

    Great words. It is positivity that gets all of us through life. Sometimes we loose our way for a while and need intervention, but positivity will always be the best medicine and prevention. Love your writing. Thank you.

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  115. BookMaidenBlog says:

    I absolutely love this post. The picture of you when you got your Ph.d is priceless. I agree that there is no such thing as to much positivity. It seems these days people would rather be negative as it is easier to relate too. Please keep up the great work and posts on your blog. You know I don’t miss a single post and I would be very disheartened if you were to stop writing….

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  117. Donna--The Cat Lady says:

    Thank you for sharing this post. It is good to hear that we can set those boundaries and not have to deal with the anger. Good job!

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  118. Jamie says:

    I love your happy picture at the end! Yippee~! Setting boundaries are important in all relationships. Don’t stop being who you are, Dr. Perry!

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  120. myedinburghpress says:

    Hi Dr. P., I think it’s great that you have set boundaries around the comments that are made on your blog, and I read them with interest. I suspect many bloggers follow the same rules for themselves without really thinking them through or writing them out so clearly. No doubt an increase in the number of detractors comes with the territory the more followers you collect along the road – a double edged sword.

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  121. RhaegarTiberius says:

    I think it is fantastic that you have such strong boundaries and focus, it let’s you get across exactly the message you wish to. I do think I can also understand what some mean when they complain about too much positivity. I prefer to be a very positive individual, I’ve been called a bouncing pile of rainbows for it more then once. I think one can take that too far though, if you refuse to acknowledge the negative. It is just as important to learn to be comfortable with your negative feelings, to sit with them, acknowledge them, and learn from them. Positivity is a fantastic guiding feeling, but repressing or ignoring negativity to create a space with only the positive is not healthy for growth. I think in your blog, filtering for only the positive is wonderful because your aim is to generate a specific feel and message to get out to others. In life, it is important to have balance and become at home in ourselves and learn to comfortably accept and be mindful of our whole emotional spectrum, both the positive and the negative.

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  123. Kathleen says:

    I don´t know how you find the time to read all the comments on your blog, so I´ll try to keep it short 😉

    I am by nature a very happy and positive person, despite the fact I´ve had (and have) to deal with really heavy stuff sometimes. But I find myself being quite insecure about how this positivity will be perceived. I feel I´m afraid people might see me as a fraud, as a manipulator, someone who´s just being nice to people because she wants them to like her back. I think many people might not trust honest positivity, because they´re used to people only being nice when they want something back.

    I even did a lot of soul searching to make sure I wasn´t fooling myself as well, thinking I might be a positive and loving person, when I fact I might just be fishing for other people´s approval.

    But you know what? I think I can honestly say I am simply a very nice and positive person who wants the best for everyone. It´s a scary thing to say, because it might be interpreted as arrogance to say something nice about yourself. But I read this blogpost of yours and I loved it. It is such a relief to hear someone declare this about himself.

    Keep going

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  126. Louise says:

    have to concur with your thoughts onthis.. there is always someone trying”to stir the pot”. you only have to quickly browse other forms of social media to see this.
    Good on you for your boundaries.

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  127. Hilary Tan says:

    My husband is overly positive. He is the type that never gets upset or holds grudges against anyone. I envy that because I am the jealous, angry type who can’t let go of a grudge. We are so different but our minds are alike, so we mesh so well. Yet very very different.

    I think that some people naturally see the glass half empty, or have a higher threshold that’s needed to make them feel happy. I call it the happiness meter. Put me in the happiest, funnest place (whatever that would be) and I would still probably be miserable. Things that help me raise my happiness meter is taking care of myself and my health. It helps with mood quite a bit, but like I said, some people are just naturally less happy and content. Idk why that is, but I stopped playing victim and doing some deep self-reflection so that hopefully I can one day see the glass half full.

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  128. terihagh says:

    great post. personally, I dont think positivity, especially 100%, is ever too much — NEVER — and it could only lead to what many people call “miracles”. in many instances, being 99% positive can be hurtful on the long run because the remaining little 1% of negativity is like a mustard seed that would grow into the biggest tree of destruction with the passage of time. KILL ALL NEGATIVITY by making it 0%.

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  129. terihagh says:

    your welcome Dr. Perry. I’m happy to come across your blog which would serve as another online river where I can fetch some motivation and inspiration.

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  130. Jellybelly says:

    I love your positivity! Keep up the good work! It’s awesome that you can set such clear boundaries. It’s your blog and you have the right to manage it as you wish!

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  131. Kitkat says:

    Great post! I find that word press can be a toxic place if you don’t filter out the negativity. There are a lot of dark and negative people on here too.

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  132. Amy H. says:

    Excellent post! I’m glad you’ve made a stand and said what you will and won’t accept. I think it’s very healthy. At the end of the day, you’re not in customer service trying to please everyone – this is your leisure time you’re devoting here and you deserve more respect than what was shown.
    I agree that you can’t have too much positivity 🙂 So long as you’re still being realistic when it comes to judgements (e.g. were it may endanger you by ignoring facts), I actually think it’s more healthy to be positive! It’s certainly more fun. I find it very draining when I read constant negative comments, I think some people genuinely can’t help but do this. Sometimes I think what an awful life that must be.
    I remember once when I had a sports injury in my leg, I was in so much pain and was walking very slowly. I was approaching a small pathway (the cars were parked half on the pavement) and the man approaching me just smiled kindly, then waited patiently for me to hobble by. It meant the world to me. Moral of the story – be positive! There’s always a silver lining 🙂 Sometimes it’s just harder to find.

    Enjoy your blogging! 🙂

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  133. Ana P. Rose says:

    From personal experience, years ago, when a person offered a solution or a positive outlook on anything going wrong with my life, I’d get really angry. I felt as if the positive mindset was “dismissive to my misery.” I then learned that a positive mindset is a lot more intricate then, “just be happy.” I still struggle with it a bit. I think, at times, we can be too positive. But Idk, as I said, it seems that positivy comes with a lot more layers. I’m learning still. Great question to ponder on. 🌹

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  135. toniannlacrette says:

    I love your blog, and the support you give to other bloggers 🙂 I too am one of those positive types! I have been told I am too optimistic, but I believe also that there is no such thing as too much positivity. Being positive is not about pretending that there is no bad, its simply endeavoring to shine some light on every and any situation. It makes life just that little bit easier, and it also helps those that can’t shine the light for themselves. Thank you for an awesome post. xx

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  136. Wanderer406 says:

    I believe you can never be to positive and I think your post was well said and what a lot of individuals may feel and not say. I am often accused of being to positive at work and I have decided that if that if it helps one person in their day than it’s all worth it.

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  138. JanBeek says:

    Yup, anonymity seems to bring out the negativity in some people, but thank God, you have a delete button, right? You don’t have to let the nay-sayers ruin our parade. March on, my friend. Share your light! I need it… I appreciate it… and by all the comments here, we can see a gob of others do, too. Just tune in to your fan club … we love you! 💕

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  144. Josef Havelka says:

    I’m always on the lookout for positive thinkers. I try my best to post positive thoughts and ideals on a daily basis. I often think the same thing- “Am I being too positive?” I recently began following your blog and have enjoyed it thus far. Keep it up.

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  145. Mama Buzz says:

    Thanks for the post. I’m all for positivity and sometimes I look at myself if I am offending anyone because of too much positive energy but I realized I don’t have to coz this is my life and this is how I want to run it.. I agree on what you said that anything worth having takes hard work, a relentlessly positive attitude and the realization that the journey matters more than the result. Excellent message!

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  150. Remembering Lives says:

    This was a courageous post. So lovely to hear some of your background story. The fact that you have had the courage to relate some of your personal struggles was actually quite healing for me today.

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      I am happy to hear this post resonated with you. Thank you for your comment✨

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  152. Utsav Shah says:

    Hey Dr., I have been nominated for Liebster Award. I am in search of my nominees. Will you participate in it? It will be an honour for me to nominate you. Will you?

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you for thinking of me Utsav. I must decline but am thankful for the thought🙏🏽✨

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  154. Priyal says:

    This a great post Doctor. Loved the content. It’s really helpful for an amateur blogger like me to tread wisely through the blogging world.

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  155. lavendertherapy says:

    It’s cool that you know your convictions and have the confidence to keep the vibe you have in mind for this blog. It seems like there’s a point where trying to follow too many conflicting perspectives at once could just overwhelm the brain like a computer with too many tabs open lol

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  156. Leslie K. says:

    Great post Dr. Perry! I believe when it’s your blog you can set your own rules. Just like in my home I set my own rules. Keep doing the great things you do!! Thank you from a loyal reader.

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  157. Rebecca says:

    Love this post. It’s been on my mind! A person I love following on Instagram was recently accused of “toxic positivity.” I find it ridiculous. As you might know I write a blog about healing, in particular I write spiritual experiences I’ve had that have helped me heal – in that realm there was only love, and no negativity at all. I believe that is our true reality. When we connect to that place we can’t help but be positive. Anyway all that to say – your positivity is WONDERFUL and MUCH NEEDED! I love your blog!

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  161. writegardener says:

    Kudos to you! So much I wish all of social media shared the same ethics as you just have in this post and on your blog. I think if they took that responsibility, hate would not be so widely spread. I have, and do, find great value in your posts and am relieved and glad you will continue.

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  162. believeinbetternow says:

    Ha! I read the post title, and yelled “Heck, No!”. Then I quickly opened to understand why you’d even ask, 🙂

    Agree… if someone seeks or sows negativity, they belong somewhere else.

    My blog is new enough I’ve not faced the “haters” yet… but will reference these rules should that day come. For now… still believing in better… everyday!

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  167. Joan Wiley says:

    I enjoy your blog very much! Great idea, setting boundaries for comments. I am surprised that you are getting such negativity. I have read some negative blogs out there, which do trigger a positive retaliation response from me. 🙂 hehehe (is that passive aggressive? lol)

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  168. JanBeek says:

    Maintaining a positive attitude in a world that is becoming more negative by the minute takes a concerted effort, lots of prayer and faith, and “duck’s feathers” that enable negativity to roll off our backs and never soak in. I can’t imagine people finding fault with any of your posts, Dr. Perry. But, if they do, your idea of blocking them makes good sense to me. Besides prayer & duck feathers, it also helps to surround ourselves with other positive souls. Thank you for being one of the best! I love your blog … and I love your clear boundaries! 👍🏽❤️

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    • Dr. Perry says:
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      Thank you so much for your kind words and I am happy to hear this resonated with you Jan✨

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  169. Priscilla Prerna Rai says:

    Agree with you Dr. Perry. I’m a glass half full kind of person too and mostly all taught due to my own adversities. Negativity takes up so much energy so I learnt the best way is to try and see the silver lining in all circumstances, so much less baggage and freedom. Good luck to you for all your endeavors🌻

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  172. laurie barrera says:

    I just wrote this morning that on social media I am tempted to rush to comment, only to backspace. Our world is brimming with rancor, collaboration is more productive. And, I am going to talk instead of type from now on! Thank you for your post today

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  173. Crafts Inspire Me says:

    Great post! We are confronted daily with so much negativity. Maintaining a positive outlook can be a struggle at times, but it is the key to making our dreams come true. Thanks for all your efforts to uplift us all.

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